Objects in the rearview mirror may appear smaller than they are

I don’t have a shrink- I’ve always wondered why they’re called shrinks- perhaps because they reduce the  monstrosity of the issues that life brings, or they shrink the potential that we all have to go insane- in any case I don’t have one but I have seriously thought about getting one. I’m not sure why I’ve thought of getting a shrink- could it be because I have many conversations with myself? or because I’m trying to meander my way through getting other’s to join me in the conversations that I often have with myself?-still I have no shrink. I have found blogging to be quite therapeutic as it has yet served as another medium that I have used to converse with myself. Recently I went through the blogs I have written so far, and regardless of the sophistication or style (who cares anyway) the content resonated with me yet again and I realized how much of what I had written that I had come to live by. Each blog is a reflection of what I was going through and as time has passed and wounds are yet healing, I know that the obstacles that once seemed insurmountable have shrunk with no shrink (I couldn’t resist).  I have come to understand that blind spots are not as dangerous in life contrary to driving lessons given by my dad. Through the curveballs that life has accurately thrown at me I am becoming accustomed to growing my own blind spots by leaving the situation to the side along with my hurt and pain - so that when I look back at the objects in the rearview mirror of my life, I experience the optical illusion that makes the circumstances seem smaller than they are.  I am still conditioning myself to make turns in life based on what the rearview mirror shows but if ever I master that skill I’ll let you know. Here’s hoping that in your travels in life you experience the optical illusion that allows you reach your destination safely and in one piece- spirit, soul and body!

5 life lessons from my children

I remember being pregnant and having a conversation with my sister-in-law- she told me my life was about to change with the baby and I thought to myself how cliché that was. What she didn’t know was that she was talking to someone that thought babies slept, pooped and stayed intact until I was ready for the next activity. Once baby came out and came home, boy was I in for a shock and the realization that I was not ready for a child - It was too late now and I had to go through the motions- battling post partum depression was not easy either- culturally it didn’t exist so there was no one to talk to except an ob gyn who offered medication which I passed up on, and dealing with the condition was overwhelming! One more child later- the motherhood journey has been challenging yet rewarding and I wouldn’t trade it for anything as cliché as that sounds. I have taught my children many things, but they have taught me many things too about life and here are my top 5 life lessons from my children:

1)      If you want something ask for it

2)      If you get no for an answer, keep asking eventually you might get a yes

3)  Cry, whine, laugh, scream- it’s ok to just let it out sometimes

4)     Have a heightened sense of appreciation so you can have many “this is the best day of my life” moments

5)     Have no sense of time and want it now!

I’m still learning to live these things each day. To anyone and everyone that has been involved in a child’s life in any capacity, I hope these lessons come to you as a gift to say thank you for all you do and that your lives become richer because of it. As they say in Texas, Happy Mother’s day y’all.